Ordinarily, the image of a workplace is something like an office, or a factory where workers toil shoulder to shoulder. But a workplace can also consist of people online who work together to create a product. Like a book. Even if the people involved have never met face to face, it’s still a work situation, and workplace mentality still applies.
In relation to another situation entirely, I came across this article that describes the mentality, tactics and definition of a workplace bully, from how to recognize one when you see one to what to do if that happens.
Paraphrased from Kickbully:
The manipulator finds clever and indirect means to control others. He deceives and seduces, or he creates a chaotic, complex situation, allowing him to exploit the naivete and character flaws of others. He has no respect for people who are passive and emotionally weak and vulnerable, so he doesn’t feel bad about exploiting them. He exudes charm and confidence in order to attract those who are naive or emotionally needy, providing them with friendship and camaraderie, or enticing them with promises of future rewards. A bully encourages others to obey him by offering to meet their emotional and financial needs. He promises friendship, respect, career advancement and financial rewards. A bully puts on a good act to gain a victim’s trust and respect.
If a workplace bully can’t convince a victim to follow him willingly, he may try to force them to comply. One of his most powerful weapons is to use subtle threats, obvious threats and emotional blackmail. A bully acts like a victim in order to manipulate others into submitting. He’ll insist that he sacrifices all for the greater good, and that others have exploited his good intentions, claiming that no one appreciates the important things he does for the company, the sacrifices he makes and the pain he suffers. If more than one person points out the absurdity of his claims, he becomes furious as he declares that everyone is ganging up on him.
Any of this sound familiar?
There’s nothing quite like that moment when a charismatic bully first shows you his true colors. From that moment on, everything he says and does seems like a fraud. You begin to wonder how you ever believed his deceptions. But then, looking around, you realize that everyone else continues to be taken in by his act, as if they are hypnotized by the sound of his voice.
Welcome to the strange and dangerous world of a two-faced bully.
Read through the pages at Kickbully to see how to first recognize and then deal with the workplace bully.