Toxic

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According to Psychology Today, individuals with narcissistic personality disorder generally believe that the world revolves around them. This condition is characterized by a lack of ability to empathize with others and a desire to keep the focus on themselves at all times. Narcissism involves cockiness, manipulativeness, selfishness, power motives, and vanity-a love of mirrors. Related personality traits include: Psychopathy, Machiavellianism.
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Let’s take a look at some of the classic characteristics of a narcissist.

They refuse responsibility
Nothing is their fault. Nothing is ever their fault. It’s your fault. It’s his fault. It’s her fault. If they get caught doing something sneaky, selfish or subversive, it’s because they “had to” doing it because of something else or someone else. They’ll give you lies and excuses, anything but acceptance of responsibility for their own actions.
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They lie
They lie to make themselves look better. They lie to manipulate. They lie to shirk responsibility. There’s no such thing as an honest narcissist.
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They look down on you
The narcissist has to feel like they’re better than you. They have an over-exaggerated self importance. In order to gain this sense of superiority, they will degrade or lie about anything or anybody they consider a threat to their self-supposed sense of superiority. They condescend, snobby, clique-ish and elitist. Everything they think, say, or do is, in the mind of a narcissist, better than anything you think, say or do.
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They’re two-faced
A narcissist has two faces, the stage face and the real one. Which one you see will depend on how long or how well you know them. The narcissist can be very charming and know how to gain favor. Anyone who doesn’t know a narcissist very well will think that the narcissist is one of the greatest people they’ve ever met! They believe this is one of the most intelligent, kindest, most interesting, funny, agreeable, most attractive, talented or accomplished people ever. The people that know the narcissist well sees the true face, a toxic and horrible person that cares nothing for the feelings of whoever they abuse. Being one of the only, or few, people that knows the true face of the narcissist is lonely, painful and frustrating. Thankfully, the number of people who see the narcissist for what he or she truly is will increase over time as more and more people see through the facade.
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They’re vindictive
If you dare to question a narcissist or request things like healthy boundaries and honesty, the “Mr. or Ms. Wonderful” mask immediately comes off, and there is no level they will not stoop to in order to “punish” you. The methods may be subversive or obvious, and there’s no end they won’t explore to make you pay. You’re enemy number one, and you can expect to be on that shit list for a very long time. Maybe forever. They will attack you (sometimes physically) and spew a load of bile, insult, abuse, contempt, threats, etc. They will say you are nothing, worthless, and turn around immediately and say that they love you.
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They project psychologically
Whatever the narcissist is guilty of, whether it’s lying, cheating or stealing, that’s what YOU will be accused of. And if you dare point the finger at them for the things they do, YOU become the abuser. The more the narcissist accuses someone else, the more you can be certain that it’s something they themselves have done and are seeking to conceal subversively.
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Lack of empathy
Above all, the narcissist lacks the ability to identify with the feelings of others. the most telling narcissistic personality trait, the narcissist simply does not care about any thoughts or feelings that conflict with their own.They can feign sympathy if it furthers their own personal agenda, but these feelings are simply for show. They are not truly felt nor considered by the narcissist. The instant it no longer serves the narcissist, the facade of concern will disappear. They won’t take other people’s feelings into consideration and so they overlook the fact that other people will react with feeling when abused or exploited and that most people get really pissed off by being lied to or lied about.
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Lack of conscience
Narcissists lack a mature conscience. Their moral intelligence is about at the level of a bright five- or six-year-old. As long as they think they can get away with whatever they’re up to, they will.
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The substance abuser
Alcohol, drugs, you name it. The narcissist seeks gratification by over-indulging in food, drugs, drinking, exercise or sex. Whatever the narcissist thinks will satisfy them at the time, they feel entitled to use it or abuse it as long as they think it will satisfy them.
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Hypersexual behavior
Pornography, masturbation, incest, any overtly sexual behavior is displayed by the sexual narcissist. Anything, anyone, young, old, male/female, are there for the narcissist’s gratification. This predator takes what is available, often engaging in superficial sexual escapades. And it won’t matter if this narcissist’s target is in a committed relationship with friends or even family. The narcissist knows no bounds.
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The penitent narcissist
When cornered or facing exposure, the narcissist will say things like: “I’ve behaved horribly, I’ll change, I love you.” The narcissist appears to come clean, admitting past “mistakes” and asking forgiveness. The narcissist knows your vulnerabilities and what buttons to push. Above all, the narcissist will play upon your sympathies. You hope for the change this narcissist promised, willing to forgive and give them the second chance they beg for. Once back in the door, literally or figuratively , this narcissist will enjoy a second reign of terror. And a third, fourth and fifth, depending upon how many chances they beg for and you kind-heartedly give. The only real way you won’t be further abused by this narcissist is to stop giving those second chances and protect yourself by removing yourself from their circle of influence.
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You will never convince a person with NPD that he is wrong, so don’t even try. They don’t think and will never accept that they’re doing anything wrong, and they will not change. Accept right now that your emotional needs will not be met by this person, so surround yourself with a support network that can empathize with you and will support your emotional needs where the narcissist will not.
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14 thoughts on “Toxic

  1. You call them a mental case and at the same time they call you a mental case. Who are people supposed to believe? I think your both nuts.

    • It’s that classic deflection game that a malignant narcissist plays, blaming the person they abuse of the things they, themselves are guilty of.

      The hallmark trait of a narcissist is lack of empathy. That’s what they’re accusing me of, right?

      Let’s take a look at that.

      When I lost a family member, Tabetha whooped it up on my blog when she KNEW I wasn’t going to be around because I was gone at a funeral. She had a great time at my family’s expense, saying I deserved it, I brought it on myself, it was my karma, and that she sicced her voodoo priestess on me and made it happen.

      When Tab lost her mother, I took a week off from posting.

      So you tell me. Who lacks empathy?

      Thank you.

      • Considering the times of postings on each blog we see exactly who the mirror reflection is. What is this? I’m rubber you’re glue whatever you say to me sticks to you!!! Are the ones in Tabetha’s camp really that childish? You don’t have a single thought on your own.

        In all of this I have noticed that the ones who have come forth have had issues with Tabetha once they have left. I just can’t believe she has so many immature people on her side. You people are sickening to be totally honest. You are nothing but Mockingbirds, Parrots plain out mimics. You only say what you have been trained to say. You don’t think I haven’t been where you are? You don’t think that Tabetha didn’t call me, all buddy buddy, singing We Are Family?

        This isn’t a case of me being fired. I fired Tabetha. There is no malice on my part being a disgruntled employee “author”. I say all that has happened to me in truth and honesty. If i wanted I could post all that Tabetha has said about each and every one of you. I have almost every conversation we had on Facebook. Except for about 2 months worth, when we started talking about me coming on board with her. I asked her to send me that info since she claimed to have saved all her authors conversations, she never did.

        You all think she is your friend your “family” look again. What respectable family cheats their blood? What respectable “family” uses people the way that most of you and I have been used? What respectable “family” takes what you have said in confidence and uses it against you to cause you harm?

        Just look at how petty and spiteful Tabetha is. My latest example is the fact that the very day I did Jaimie’s radio show Tabetha (and I say Tabetha because if she didn’t do it one of her puppets did on her command)reported my picture on my personal page for nudity. Now you may think that anyone could have done this. I want you to know that it was the picture she had issues with after I had left. She herself said that my ( bush) was there for all to see, Sorry to hurt her feelings but 1 i am not a hairy beast like she may be, and 2 what she thought she saw was leather panties. It was also the outfit she had begged to borrow for a photo shoot. Which I refused for her to use.

        so you see little girl stomps her feet, throws a temper tantrum just to get her way. I am not like that. Have told her many times there is no shame in my game. Unlike Tabetha who hides everything she does, and uses people to get what she wants.

        For the record,it would behoove all of you who come here to defend Tabetha to invest in learning sentence structure and how to write proper paragraphs and the like. Since you all are claiming to be writers. Who are you writing for, See Spot Run books? Oh wait, your erotica that Tabetha loves to pedal. I will say again, try writing to Penthouse or Hustler you may get some where. Those books are better than anything Tabetha can put out. Least you may have a chance.If not your loss. You have been warned.

      • At least “See Spot run” books use nouns, verbs, sentences and punctuation. Tabetha publishes none of the above. She can’t even write with the skills of a kindergarten primer.

        And what publisher drags her authors into a drama like this to cover her ass? First, she implies that the were all on board with her defrauding the public, and now she’s throwing them under the bus one by one on the blogs to cover her own ass about it. I ask again, WHAT PUBLISHER DOES THAT?

        Right. A fake one.

  2. What I don’t get is why Embryo (’cause she acts so immature, she’s positively in utero) Ravenwood thinks she looks good posting what she does, like the stuff about NPD. She’s trying so hard to copy Lepp in terms of content – soooo hard, it’s pathetic – but every one of her posts & comments are obviously knee-jerk responses to what’s happening over here. And it’s all so way off target, it’s hilarious. It’s cheap and childish. I keep looking on that blog for this “proof” that’s promised, but it’s just Embryo jerking herself off. And why the Fuck is anyone questioning why this blog isn’t focused on Kinship? Well duh! This blog is about warning authors about Tabetha Jones. Read the first fucking post, you numbskulls.

    Embryo keeps Threatening to “expose” Lepp. Such crap, it’s laughable. I’ve been following this blog from day one, and Jeanne is my friend. There’s nothing to expose. I know it, and so does anyone who matters. Nice try, rookie. You can’t fool me, little Embryo.

  3. Oh, and for anybody out there that complains that I don’t stay up until all hours approving posts… some of us actually SLEEP at night. We don’t all stay up all night popping pills and chasing them down with whole bottles of Absinthe so we can visit with that friendly little green fairy. Some of us actually have real lives in the real word, with real people and real business in them. Give it a try. You might not be such a shit-sucking psychopath.

    If you want your comments to go through, quit making up so many fucking alts that have to be approved. Use an ID you already created out of thin air to post your hateful, ridiculous comments. It’ll go straight to the board.

    If you want to keep making up all these different names as if we don’t know that it’s you, well, you’ll just have to wait until normal hours for us to laugh at you thinking you’re being clever.

  4. Lepp matey, did you see that Tabetha and her flying monkey posted about narsissists too? I’d love to know who this Embryo person is, she’s such an idiot for throwing her lot in with the likes of Scabby Assy. How thick can you get?

    • Yeah. I quoted psychology Today. They copy and pasted from Wikipedia. Because, you know, Wikipedia is so reliable and junk.

      I’m not willing to call her latest sock puppet ignorant. Tab has fooled a lot of good people. Some of them post here on this blog. She tells people the story she wants them to believe, and why shouldn’t they? They hear her story about being victimized by some “hate” blog that’s trying to take her business down, and they think how awful that is for her. She milks it by quoting posts from here without putting them in context, With her spin on it, I come off looking like the evil spawn of hell. What a Bitch, picking on a poor business woman like that. It’s only natural they’d feel defensive on her behalf. She’s done the same thing since the beginning, rallying her authors to run off and defend her. Several authors and associates have said the same thing.

      So These poor saps think I’m this horrible person, right up until they realize that every word posted here is true. They do a little homework and pay closer attention to the woman they’re defending. They see that she’s willing to let them take the lumps while she sits back and hides behind them. Just look at that blog. She’s got someone running a blog for her to hide behind, spitting out venom and playing the victim.

      I hope that woman that’s running it for her sees that she’s being used, before her own reputation is so badly damaged that there’s no coming back. Tab might not care who falls by the wayside as collateral damage, but I feel sorry for the people she uses and abuses. And I don’t hold grudges. If she does finally realize that she’s been taken advantage of, I won’t blame her for anything. It’s natural to defend a friend if you think they’re being victimized. I don’t fault anybody for that.

      However, if she’s like a couple of these other former victims who KNOWS what a selfish wretch Tab is, but keep on defending her anyway, they’re on their own. If they think it’s cute or funny to defend somebody like that after they know what she is, they deserve every bit of fallout they get.

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  6. Update:

    As of June, 2016, Tabetha Jones has no publishing companies in operation that we know about, so our investigation of her has been halted. The point of examining her in the first place was to advocate for authors that reported no royalties and other related abuse from her. If she’s not involved with publishing anymore, that job’s done.

    The posts about her remain in public view in case she starts a new one in the future.

    If more publishing concerns about Tabetha Jones (Willis, Farmer Hoover, Saulters, etc) – AKA Zooey Sweete, Emerald Rai Fleurs, et al – arise in the future, we will post relevant updates. But for now, we’re focusing on happier topics.

    Peace.

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